Summary:
In this episode I share my story of an attempted rape / molestation that occurred to me when I was in my teenage years. I kept this a secret for over 20 years for many reasons – the homophobic culture that I grew up in, fear of being labelled, shame, embarrassment, etc.
From this, I had to learn how to forgive when my mind said I should but my heart was saying the opposite. This was one of the most difficult things I had to do. My mind understood that it needed to do this because:
- it is the right thing to do
- It is the only way of being set free from the offender
- God says so
My heart on the other hand didn’t want to because:
- it felt like justice hadn’t been served – the injustice gap
- it felt like the offender was getting off too easily
- it hurts too much
However, these two steps as outlined in my book “2 Steps To ForGIFTness” available on Amazon.com, which can be found on my home page (I would ask that you use that link as my affiliate) makes forgiveness easier. The two steps are:
- Decisional – making the decision to do so
- Emotional – adding to the emotional tank through empathy and sympathy
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August 2, 2013
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