Your Successful Midlife Transition Could Be Delayed By These Emotions

Facing Your Past Is One Way To Experience A Successful Midlife Transition

Successful Midlife Transition Maybe A Call AwayThere are so many issues that we face in life that affects us in one way or another. Sometimes we go through life ignoring many of the emotions that are formed because of past experiences. However, these emotions do remain with us and somehow hinders us from excelling or achieving certain goals in our lives, one of those being successful midlife career change or transition.

Many years will have passed without us realizing how much these internal issues play a role in how we function from day to day. There comes a time when almost from no-where we are “hit” by them sending us in a tail-spin. Sometimes they come without warning while at other times we see them coming yet feel helpless in preventing them.

Midlife tends to be the time when these emotions bursts on the scene. It’s the time when we are not as consumed with pouring our energies in our small children as we used to. It’s the time when we have completed as much schooling as planned for. It’s the time when we begin to question our purpose – why are we here? what have I accomplished in my life so far?

The moment these things begin to happen, we embark upon a deeper search and in so doing, stir up parts of our being that have been buried or ignored for years.

After many years of working what I would call a 9-5 job even though I almost always put in over 50+ hours per week, my children becoming less dependent on us as parents, and having completed as much schooling as I had envisioned at this time, that I began to ask some of the above mentioned questions. The answers were somewhat scary and frightening. There were lots of unanswered questions. I wanted to do something different but wasn’t sure I was ready or capable even though all the evidence would say otherwise.

I wanted to transition into the world of entrepreneurship. I wanted to become a Midlifepreneur. I wanted to be in charge of the remaining years of my life. Was I okay with that and was I able to do that, were two of the questions with which I wrestled.

In my deeper search I came to the realization that I had some limiting beliefs. One of the major ones had to do with money. My upbringing and the various “messages” I received on this topic created in me a money blockage. I was often told that “money doesn’t grow on trees”; “we can’t afford it”; “It’s wrong and greedy to want to be wealthy”. These are only a few of the messages I received. The messages might not have been communicated with those exact words but that was the take-away. Now I had to work through this blockage.

Thank God I have since done that with the help of others – books, podcast and mentors. However there are many who have not and are dealing with effects that are now surfacing at this stage of their lives. In talking with others who have experienced or are experiencing what I’m describing, I have heard of other emotions that have been stirred. Here are a few: Un-forgiveness; Feeling unloved; Abandonment; Negative labels – won’t amount to anything, stupid, dumb; Feeling insecure.

These emotions can surface at other times as well. However, it seems that midlife can be a time for such resurgence, which can easily lead to feeling stuck, angry and depressed.

If you are experiencing what I just described, I would highly recommend you work this through with a professional therapist of life coach. This process can be the catalyst that opens a whole new world to you and position you for a life that you have always wanted to experience. This I believe would be your way of experiencing a successful midlife transition.

I’m on my way. You can be too.

What are some other emotions that is worth considering? Would you take the time to share them below so we can continue this conversation? Thanks for doing it now.

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About Kingsley Grant

I am a published author, motivational speaker, father of two, husband of one, licensed psychotherapist, certified midlife transitional coach, follower of Christ and President of Helping Families Improve, Inc.

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