(Pt. 2) 5-Simple Steps Men In Midlife Can Take In Moving Towards Their Dream

Most men in midlife feel stuck because they don’t know where to begin doing something that would not feel like a complete startover. To reduce those feelings it’s important to consider these last two of the 5-Simple Steps started in the previous blog.

Step 4: Be Willing To Make The Necessary Changes As You Go

Making changes along the way may not necessarily be to change the previous “product” you’ve created. As I shared before, that was what I thought I needed to do. But no, I needed to learn from what I did right and wrong, and proceed to implement those lessons in my next project.

The lesson I learned in my first book was that I should have mapped out the chapters ahead of time using whatever means possible. I have an app called mindmeister which is very helpful in doing something like that. I don’t use it as often as I should but when I do, it helps greatly.

You could simple take a pad and pen and draw flowcharts as to how you want things to look and flow. This in only the skeletal that would help guide the process. 

Step 5: Surround Yourself With Cheerleaders

Do you know of a sports team that doesn’t have some form of cheerleading? In the United States, where I live, I don’t know of one. This might not be true for other countries, where there are actually guys and girls who are paid to showcase some kind of team orchestrated dance or other routines. This is to help keep the spirit of the team as high as possible.

Even though not every country has this form of cheerleading, I would dare say they all have some form of cheerleading … they are called fans. This I know every team has.

You too need to have like-minded people around you who realize that winning is on your mind. Your success gives them something to be proud of because they are in it with you. It’s a shared experience.

My immediate family became a part of this cheerleading group. However, I failed to recruit additional cheerleaders who understood this process. By understanding this process, I mean understanding the world of entrepreneurship and following ones dream. For some, it was seen as a nice thing to have done but now, I needed to return to the real world and stay there. Those exact words were not used but they might as well have been. 

I really blamed myself for that. I was the one who didn’t recruit as many like-minded people as I said before. At the time I didn’t see it that way. I blamed them for not wanting my success. The fact is, some of them didn’t understand what my success was. I hadn’t clearly articulated what I was after. Some saw it as only writing a book and that’s it. That’s another thing I learned and made sure I changed for the future.

Summary:

These last two (see the first two here) of the 5-Simple Steps might not be towards writing a book as it was for me in this case, but it could very well be any other project you have inside you. In what way could you apply these steps? 

I would love to hear from you as to what it is you are doing and how these steps might be helpful. If you need some help in figuring a way to apply these steps, please contact me for a FREE one-time 30-minute Coaching session. I would love to help you figure this out.

Leave me a comment below as to which of the steps you find more meaningful and why. Thanks.