Every Person In A Relationship Needs To Be Bi-lingual

Every Person In A Relationship Needs To Be Bi-lingual

Gary Chapman wrote a best seller book entitled “The 5 love languages.” In it he talks about the 5 primary ways most people communicate love.

The 5 ways are:

• Acts of service
• Giving of gifts
• Statements of affirmation
• Physical touch
• Quality time

Most people who are in a relationship tend to show love to their partner the way they want to be shown love. They are so surprised when their partner asks them if they love them.

What they are missing is that their partner have a native love language that needs to be spoken so they can understand it. They may understand some of what is being said in their non-native tongue, but their primary language would be their preference. 

My primary love language is “words of affirmation” and my wife is “physical touch.” I see this happening between us very often. My wife offers me physical touch (hers) and I offer her words of affirmation (mine).

I would prefer if she would speak my language more. I would hear easier. I know she would prefer if I did the same. Good thing we don’t make such a big deal over that as some people do. 

Sometimes we do the same with God … We fail to offer him that which he prefers. How do I know that? 

Solomon reminds us of that: The Lord is more pleased when we do what is right and just than when we offer him sacrifices. (Proverbs 21:3 NLT)

What is your love language?

One way to find out is to purchase the book here and find out. Secondly, if you are in a relationship think of what your partner does that makes you feel loved. More than likely, this is a clue to your love language.

Example:

• Do you feel loved when he or she hugs you? If the answer is yes, your love language more than likely is physical touch or affection.
• Do you feel loved when you are acknowledged for something you did? If the answer is yes, your language more than likely is words of affirmation.

What’s your thoughts on being bi-lingual in a relationship? Do you find this to be true in your situation? I would love to hear your story or comments below.