Being Too Comfortable Can Keep You From Your Happiness

After almost 5 years of working as a Postal Employee, I handed in my resignation to begin my journey that I truly felt was going to lead me to my destiny or to put it another way, lead me in the direction of my heart’s desire. When it comes to life’s calling, I dont believe we really and truly know our destiny. I believe it is a process; a journey; an evolution (this is where I do believe in evolution).

Where I am today and what it is I’m currently doing has been progressive. One thing led to another. It’s that old adage that says, “it’s easier to steer a moving car than one that is parked.” I became that steering car.

I do believe most of us can say that what we are currently doing or have done, isn’t it. There is something else that we would rather be doing. One of my favorite questions I like to ask my coaching clients is “If you could do what you really love to do and if you had a guarantee you would not fail if you did it, what would you do?” It’s surprising to hear the answers. I have not had one person as yet who have said they would be doing what they are currently doing.

Imagine, they are going to possibly get to the end of their lives never experiencing what it is they would rather be doing. It’s funny but not really funny to read a bumper sticker that says “I would rather be fishing” or whatever else. That would be their heart’s desire. Yet most of those people behind the wheel are heading to a job they really don’t like but they are doing it – for the money.

Becoming too comfortable, which has a direct correlation to complacency, is one of the death traps for many people.

We stay here because of our thoughts, fears, and the possible reaction of others. Hadad faced something similar. He had all the comforts he could ever want. Living in the Pharoahs residence gave him access to everything he could ever want but there was a restlessness within him. He approached the Pharoah with his proposal; letter of resignation so to speak. Here’s the Pharoahs response:

“Why?” Pharaoh asked him. “What do you lack here that makes you want to go home?” “Nothing,” he replied. “But even so, please let me return home.” (1 Kings 11:22 NLT)

On the surface it seemed like he – Hadad wasn’t lacking anything and he wasn’t, but on the inside, he was lacking everything … following his heart; his calling.

Here are 4 questions to ask yourself if you think you should be doing something else but isn’t:

1. What would you be doing if you know you could not fail or lose out at it?
2. Why aren’t you doing it?
3. What’s one thing you could do to begin aligning yourself to #1 above?
4. Who might be of help to you? A coach? A mentor?

How would the above 4 questions make a difference for you? I would love to hear your thoughts.