4 Questions To Inspire a Mindset Change in Middle Aged Men and Women

4 Questions To Inspire a Mindset Change in Middle Aged Men and Women

Most Middle Aged men and women grapple with the fact that they need to do something different or simply make some adjustment to their lives. They are at a point that they are looking back, forward and around and many are seeing things that they are not liking.

They don’t like the:

• way gravity is taking a toll on their bodies. Some have aided gravity by the choice of food and liquid consumption. 
• rapid hair loss that is taking place
• rapid rate of expansion around the waist
• way their financial future is looking
• state of some or most of their relationships
• current job they are working at
• feelings of depression that has emerged, et cetera

On the other hand some are wishing they knew ten or fifteen years ago what they know now. I often respond in this manner: “There is no way that you could have known then what you know now. What you know now has come with where you are now … experience.” As a matter of fact, I’m not sure you would want to know ten or fifteen years ago what you now know because you would be too overwhelmed at that stage of life. You could not handle it. More to say on that in a future blog.

How then do you adjust to where you are in such a manner that life at midlife or another way of putting it, middle aged life, works for you instead of against you? What needs to happen?

Here is the first thing that you need to do followed by four questions that will help you map out a new way of embracing your middle aged or midlife status: Picture a preferred future.

Take some time to put all the pieces together of what that would look and feel like. Once you have securely fastened that picture within your mind, ask yourself the following four questions. These questions are meant to provoke you to action; doing something differently so that you will get what it is you’re desiring as your preferred future.

1. How is what you are currently doing getting you to where you want?
2. What’s one thing you would need to do differently that would begin the realignment process?
3. Who could help you make this happen … hold you accountable? (Think of someone who you trust but not someone who would let you off the hook)
4. When could you begin to take this small step … your change step? (Put a date on a calendar and tell your trusted friend)

Do this exercise today and meditate on it. Talk to someone about it. Revisit your plan that you have put in place to make this a reality. You are now at the most important stage of your life – midlife. You are now equipped with most of what you need to take advantage of your years of learning. This learning could have come from some so-called failures or mistakes along the way. Use all of what has happened to you to your advantage. Don’t waste it.

If these questions have been helpful to you, take a few minutes and leave a comment below so that others can get some ideas and as a community we could serve one another who are at the most exciting time of life – the middle aged or midlife stage. Let’s change the mindset one person at a time.